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Hi Sue. I actually live in Loughborough, but I had both my children at QMC. Where did you go? Thomasina
I delivered in London (Chelsea and Westminster) and moved here last year. I live in Long Eaton so it seems I can choose between QMC, Nottingham City and Derby, if I ever get around to having another one!
BTW, I used to work in L’boro at the Barclays Bank on Bishop Meadow Road, oooh about 10 years ago! — Sue, mum to Steffi the Pomwi (12/96) **Header has spam trap** sue at woollett dot demon dot co uk http://members.tripod.com/~woollett/index.html
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I delivered in London (Chelsea and Westminster) and moved here last year. I live in Long Eaton so it seems I can choose between QMC, Nottingham City and Derby, if I ever get around to having another one!
BTW, I used to work in L’boro at the Barclays Bank on Bishop Meadow Road, oooh about 10 years ago!
I read in another newsgroup that you’re thinking of training as a breastfeeding counsellor. I’m currently training as a breastfeeding counsellor with the NCT – it’d be good to keep in touch if you do train (and any other trainees out there – feel free to email me!). I hope you do manage to train sometime. I ‘m really enjoying it at the moment and its nice to know who’s out there. Thomasina – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text — Sue, mum to Steffi the Pomwi (12/96) **Header has spam trap** sue at woollett dot demon dot co uk http://members.tripod.com/~woollett/index.html
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I’m currently training as a breastfeeding counsellor with the NCT – it’d be good to keep in touch if you do train (and any other trainees out there – feel free to email me!). I hope you do manage to train sometime. I ‘m really enjoying it at the moment and its nice to know who’s out there. Thomasina
Thomasina, (and anyone else who’s still in this thread) You might be interested in our email list (surprise, surprise, it’s at onelist.com!) for the NCT. You can subscribe by going to http://www.onelist.com/subscribe/nct There are about 21 people on the list although there are only about 6 of us that are quite vocal! It is quiet at times but also hots up from time to time! Traffic is fair low volume. BTW, it was our branch open meeting last night and I mentioned to them that I would like to train – they were very receptive and we, as a branch, can afford it at present. Funny thing – they have had four people ask about training recently. Good job since we currently have no breastfeeding counsellors – they all resigned re the Sainsburys thing. — Sue, mum to Steffi the Pomwi (12/96) **Header has spam trap** sue at woollett dot demon dot co uk http://members.tripod.com/~woollett/index.html
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I have a friend in Manchester who has had very good breastfeeding support from her community midwife and I have also had pretty good experiences in Nottingham.
Hi Thomasina, I am in Nottingham too – which hospital did you use? — Sue, mum to Steffi the Pomwi (12/96) **Header has spam trap** sue at woollett dot demon dot co uk http://members.tripod.com/~woollett/index.html
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Hi Thomasina, I am in Nottingham too – which hospital did you use? — Hi Sue. I actually live in Loughborough, but I had both my children at
QMC. Where did you go? Thomasina
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<snip It seems that they are the ones with the problem, not you. Do you think it really is "concern", or competitiveness?
I think you hit the nail on the head. <another snip picture the scenario in ten years’ time – all this hassle will be long over and while your SIL has a child who has an egg allergy for life, your child will be able to go to parties without worrying about every bite she’s putting in her mouth.
Thanks for putting this in perspective. SIL was told that her son will outgrow the egg allergy eventually, I hope so! — Meg — "A little child born yesterday A thing on mother’s milk and kisses fed" — Homer. Hymn to Hermes, 1:406
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I’m an American married to a Man City fan and we live in the US. Yesterday DH got off the phone w/ his sister and asked why don’t we start Abby on solids? She’s not even 3 mo. old! I would like to be able to quote British guidelines on nursing, something similar to the AMA recommending bf for the first year.
As some posters have already said, the guidelines are 4 months the earliest, 6 months the latest to start introducing solids. Has your SIL’s friend actually talked to anyone about the fact that she is giving her baby solids? I know that my health visitor would be very concerned to hear about a baby less than 3 months being given solids. In all the literature on weaning that I have read (eg publications by the Health Education Authority), they say that no solids at all should be given before 3 months and only in *exceptional* circumstances before 4 months. The reason this is coming up is b/c my SIL (who has a 10 mo. old) has a friend who was due the same time as we were, with her second child. The friend gave up bf-ing very early due to mastitis. This friend gained over 5 stone with her pg, which my SIL told me was "all baby." (This friend is not slim to begin with.) Now she has a heavy baby, and has started to give it solids b/c she feels (was told?) that formula is not enough to feed her "big baby." SIL was concerned b/c Abby is also a big baby (9 lbs. 13 oz, 23 inches long at birth, 13 lbs 13 oz and 25 1/2 inches at 2 months).
It seems that they are the ones with the problem, not you. Do you think it really is "concern", or competitiveness? I think that if you presented the two babies’ situations to a doctor, theirs would be the one who would cause him to worry. Certainly this would be the case in our local authority, which is very pro-breastfeeding. SIL started her baby on solids at 4 months and he has an egg allergy. DH and I discuss the research on this and I thought we had agreed but he gets off the phone with his family and wants to know why don’t we give Abby formula, why don’t we give her solids? and we’ve been through this. I feel like I’m doing something terrific for their granddaughter/niece, and they act as though I’m neglecting her.
Sorry to hear that. All I can say is that you know that you’re right and they’re wrong. Hopefully, delaying solids will prevent your baby from developing food allergies; picture the scenario in ten years’ time – all this hassle will be long over and while your SIL has a child who has an egg allergy for life, your child will be able to go to parties without worrying about every bite she’s putting in her mouth. Denise
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LOL. That might work! I’ll have to come up with some statistics (he’s a scientist). — Meg – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Tell him that if you feed the baby formula, it has more chances of being a Man. United fan, or worse a Liverpool fan. Lucy West Ham fan I’m an American married to a Man City fan and we live in the US. Yesterday DH got off the phone w/ his sister and asked why don’t we start Abby on solids? She’s not even 3 mo. old! I would like to be able to quote British guidelines on nursing, something similar to the AMA recommending bf for the first year. Some of you will remember my stories from a month ago of my in-laws visit and the pressure from FIL to put Abby on formula "for my convenience." The reason this is coming up is b/c my SIL (who has a 10 mo. old) has a friend who was due the same time as we were, with her second child. The friend gave up bf-ing very early due to mastitis. This friend gained over 5 stone with her pg, which my SIL told me was "all baby." (This friend is not slim to begin with.) Now she has a heavy baby, and has started to give it solids b/c she feels (was told?) that formula is not enough to feed her "big baby." SIL was concerned b/c Abby is also a big baby (9 lbs. 13 oz, 23 inches long at birth, 13 lbs 13 oz and 25 1/2 inches at 2 months). Both DH and I have food allergies and I would really like to delay giving Abby solids until she is 6 mo. old. Is there any British source to back this up? SIL started her baby on solids at 4 months and he has an egg allergy. Plus Abby and I will probably be staying with the in-laws when she is 6 mo. old and we will probably be going through this stop-bf-ing-my-granddaughter thing all over again. DH will be at a conference and so we will be staying there w/out him. Are the leaflets at Boots really good about supporting bf-ing or is it a case of it’s best but if you can’t do it, here’s what you do? What is SMA (from the formula thread)? DH and I discuss the research on this and I thought we had agreed but he gets off the phone with his family and wants to know why don’t we give Abby formula, why don’t we give her solids? and we’ve been through this. I feel like I’m doing something terrific for their granddaughter/niece, and they act as though I’m neglecting her. All I can do, it seems, is keep saying that Abby’s growing beautifully, is healthy, and that her dr is very pleased with her progress. For crying out loud, she’s off the charts for everything. I’d hate to see what pressure I would get if she wasn’t such an Amazon. When they were here for a visit, DH didn’t want me to defend the benefits of bf-ing b/c he was concerned it would imply criticism of his sister’s choice to ff. But they don’t seem to hesitate to criticise our choice! TIA — Meg, who needed to vent
– "A little child born yesterday A thing on mother’s milk and kisses fed" — Homer. Hymn to Hermes, 1:406
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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – My SIL had a baby almost a year ago in Manchester, and in the beginning, when she was worried that she couldn’t tell how much milk she was producing, and maybe it wasn’t enough, she decided to "top him off" (another cultural difference, in America, to top someone is to kill them!) with a bottle. Then her nurses told her that that is what they do too (approval). Her parents were completely indignant that the nurses did not tell her this in the first place. It was as if they suspected the nurses of trying to trick her into bf-ing. And of course (sarcasm on) ff-ing was superior since that’s what the nurses did themselves. Our nephew is a beautiful healthy boy, and SIL is an excellent mother. — Meg
As I said in my previous post, it does seem to be pot luck as to whether you get good help or not. I have a friend in Manchester who has had very good breastfeeding support from her community midwife and I have also had pretty good experiences in Nottingham. My first baby was born after an emergency section and did not want to latch on. I was able to call a midwife everytime I wanted to feed for help with latching. Also, as they knew I wanted to breastfeed, a special dedicated midwife/advisor came to see me and showed me how to pump and to hand express my colostrum and give this to my baby by syringe as well as keeping on putting him to the breast. Not once was it suggested that I "top him up" or give forumla at all. He was 9lbs 8oz born and had gone down to 8lbs by day 6. Even though he had lost more than 10% of his body weight, as he had finally learned how to latch on we were allowed home where I received excellent support from my community midwife who visited regularly until she was happy that feeding was well established. I also had support from my local National Childbirth Trust breastfeeding counsellor. I had an equally good experience after the birth (VBAC) of my little girl Emma in November. This time it was better – she was born, given to me to cuddle and she fed straight away for about 25 mins and knew exactly what to do! She didn’t feed again for ages after that and had forgotten a bit when she did, so we had to go back to square one and re-learn what we had known straight after birth. I got a little sore, but with persistance in taking her off when she wasn’t on properly this cleared up very quickly and again I received excellent support whilst in hospital – not a mention of formula. The hospital has made sure all their midwives have been taught the same information so the staff were fairly consistant in their help. Because of the tremendous help I got after the birth of my son, I decided I wanted to train as a breastfeeding counsellor. I kept meeting people who said stuff like "I really wanted to breastfeed but I was told to give a bottle as he hadn’t fed for 8 hours". This made me sad and angry as I now know that babies sometimes don’t want to feed for a while afterwards. With Emma the midwives told me that babies are often sleepy for upto 24 hours after birth and as she fed straight away not to worry. Sure enough, when she decided she was hungry, she went for it with a vengance! Many more hospitals (including the one in Nottingham where I had my children) are going for breastfeeding friendly status and are really having to work to improve their polices. I’m sorry your SIL had such a bad time – I’m sure it goes again the WHO code for midwives to encourage forumla feeding and "topping up". It is terrible that they did so – but there ARE good midwives out there and as I said before, lots of voluntary organisations too! We just have to hang in there and do what we can to change what we can. Thomasina
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However there does not seem to be much support for breastfeeding in the media. A lot of articles in magazines seem to be stuck on the difficulties and not the pleasures and there always seems to be this thread that at the first sign of trouble you give up.
Although I agree there is not a lot of support in the daily papers, breastfeeding is often shown as the thing to do in popular TV series. Perhaps not everyone’s choice of viewing, but each episode of Eastenders is seen by millions of people of all ages and both Tiffany and Bianca have at least started off by breastfeeding their babies. I remember that when Tiffany was feeding, it sparked at least one article in the Radio Times about expressing milk and getting help when needed. The Australian soaps are quite good at this too. Bottlefeeding is everywhere and breastfeeding in public is never really seen anymore.
I disagree. I have seen many mothers feeding in public – albeit very discreetly and I usually only notice because I happen to notice the baby lying so quietly. Steffi and I have always eaten a lot of our meals out and it is in family type places that I tend to see these people – cafes at the Denby Pottery, Ikea, in Battersea Park, in shopping centre food courts and family-theme pubs. Couple this with the recent advertisment for SMA follow on milk which is on prime time television and you can see the pressure on many young mums to formula feed because that is what everyone else seems to be doing.
The follow on milk ads really bug me. There seems to be a very definite attitude of ’start solids, start formula’ as though that is the natural weaning process. Many of the mums I know very happily breastfed their children for the first four months but by then had had enough and dropped the feeds one by one. By six months, most have given up breastfeeding entirely. With my daughter I hit difficulties at 6 weeks and no matter how hard I tried to find help health professionals and doctors kept suggesting the bottle. Eventually I gave in. With my son I did a lot of research mainly on the Net and linked up this newsgroup and found out that my previous problem was due to a growth spurt at 5 weeks what a total waste. To think with that small piece of knowledge I could of breastfed my daughter like I am still doing with my son.
I am sorry to hear you had these difficulties. I too had lots of problems and was fortunate enough to have found these newsgroups whilst I was pregnant. In fact, I think the thing I missed most during the first six weeks of my daughter’s life was access to Usenet!!! (We were staying with family and my DH had the laptop.) Ignore what your family is saying and do what you feel is right. From what I have read the US seems to be better at knowing what is best for its children.
When I was in Virginia I was surprised by pro-breastfeeding attitude. There were public health ads on TV in favour of feeding and most times I fed Steffi (9mo) I received a favourable remark. Being ‘foreign’ was an excuse that I was prepared to use if challenged (Best British accent, ‘Oh really? You expect children to eat in the toilet? That’s not how we do it in Britain.’ And if necessary, ‘But then you are such a *young* country and still learning how to do things properly.’ No offence to anyone here – we all have our own ways of dealing with these interfering busybodies!) But the need never arose. As for solids start as late as possible both of mine were almost 6 months ,but , again in all the free stuff you get pressure from baby food companies to start at 4 months.
Yes, the free packs you can pick up from Boots, etc all contain sample jars of dried and jarred food. — Sue, mum to Steffi the Pomwi (12/96) **Header has spam trap** sue at woollett dot demon dot co uk http://members.tripod.com/~woollett/index.html
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Tell him that if you feed the baby formula, it has more chances of being a Man. United fan, or worse a Liverpool fan. Lucy West Ham fan – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m an American married to a Man City fan and we live in the US. Yesterday DH got off the phone w/ his sister and asked why don’t we start Abby on solids? She’s not even 3 mo. old! I would like to be able to quote British guidelines on nursing, something similar to the AMA recommending bf for the first year. Some of you will remember my stories from a month ago of my in-laws visit and the pressure from FIL to put Abby on formula "for my convenience." The reason this is coming up is b/c my SIL (who has a 10 mo. old) has a friend who was due the same time as we were, with her second child. The friend gave up bf-ing very early due to mastitis. This friend gained over 5 stone with her pg, which my SIL told me was "all baby." (This friend is not slim to begin with.) Now she has a heavy baby, and has started to give it solids b/c she feels (was told?) that formula is not enough to feed her "big baby." SIL was concerned b/c Abby is also a big baby (9 lbs. 13 oz, 23 inches long at birth, 13 lbs 13 oz and 25 1/2 inches at 2 months). Both DH and I have food allergies and I would really like to delay giving Abby solids until she is 6 mo. old. Is there any British source to back this up? SIL started her baby on solids at 4 months and he has an egg allergy. Plus Abby and I will probably be staying with the in-laws when she is 6 mo. old and we will probably be going through this stop-bf-ing-my-granddaughter thing all over again. DH will be at a conference and so we will be staying there w/out him. Are the leaflets at Boots really good about supporting bf-ing or is it a case of it’s best but if you can’t do it, here’s what you do? What is SMA (from the formula thread)? DH and I discuss the research on this and I thought we had agreed but he gets off the phone with his family and wants to know why don’t we give Abby formula, why don’t we give her solids? and we’ve been through this. I feel like I’m doing something terrific for their granddaughter/niece, and they act as though I’m neglecting her. All I can do, it seems, is keep saying that Abby’s growing beautifully, is healthy, and that her dr is very pleased with her progress. For crying out loud, she’s off the charts for everything. I’d hate to see what pressure I would get if she wasn’t such an Amazon. When they were here for a visit, DH didn’t want me to defend the benefits of bf-ing b/c he was concerned it would imply criticism of his sister’s choice to ff. But they don’t seem to hesitate to criticise our choice! TIA — Meg, who needed to vent
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DH got off the phone w/ his sister and asked why don’t we start Abby on solids? She’s not even 3 mo. old! I would like to be able to quote British guidelines on nursing, something similar to the AMA recommending bf for the first year.
The guidelines for infant feeding in the UK come from the 1994 COMA Report ‘Weaning and the weaning diet’. They recommend not commencing solids before 4 months with a few exceptions. The advice given is to start between 4 and 6 months [not at 3 months, and not even necessarily at 4 months although some people interpret as meaning you must start at 4 months]. So as long as you start solids BY 6 months you would be within UK guidelines. The British side of the family must be going be pre-1994 guidelines [which still didn't recommend weaning before 3 months anyway] so I’m afraid they are wrong. Breastfeeding is also recommended to be continued for the first year. BTW, to answer your other question, SMA is a formula manufacturer, Beki
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Hi I have been nursing for a year in Britain and no matter what they say breastfeeding past the first few weeks still seems to be rare. As in the previous posts the guidelines are to breastfeed for the first year and to start solids between 4 and 6 months. However there does not seem to be much support for breastfeeding in the media. A lot of articles in magazines seem to be stuck on the difficulties and not the pleasures and there always seems to be this thread that at the first sign of trouble you give up. Bottlefeeding is everywhere and breastfeeding in public is never really seen anymore. Couple this with the recent advertisment for SMA follow on milk which is on prime time television and you can see the pressure on many young mums to formula feed because that is what everyone else seems to be doing. With my daughter I hit difficulties at 6 weeks and no matter how hard I tried to find help health professionals and doctors kept suggesting the bottle. Eventually I gave in. With my son I did a lot of research mainly on the Net and linked up this newsgroup and found out that my previous problem was due to a growth spurt at 5 weeks what a total waste. To think with that small piece of knowledge I could of breastfed my daughter like I am still doing with my son. Ignore what your family is saying and do what you feel is right. From what I have read the US seems to be better at knowing what is best for its children. As for solids start as late as possible both of mine were almost 6 months ,but , again in all the free stuff you get pressure from baby food companies to start at 4 months. To me Britain seems to be concerned only with making as much money out of vunerable first time parents as possible . Anita Danielle 4 and Aaron 1
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I have been nursing for a year in Britain and no matter what they say breastfeeding past the first few weeks still seems to be rare.
I think the breastfeeding initiation rate i.e. those starting to breastfeed after the birth is about 62% in this country. Unfortunately this drops dramatically in the first 6 weeks and by 6 months I think that only about 24% of mums still breastfeed. I’m not 100% sure of my statistics here, but I know that the first 2 weeks are when people are most likely to stop. As in the previous posts the guidelines are to breastfeed for the first year and to start solids between 4 and 6 months.
This is true but I forgot to mention before that the World Health Organisation recommends breastfeeding for around 2 years. This doesn’t seem to have been taken on board at all in the UK! Those of us that do feed more than 1 year often just don’t mention it as people are shocked. However there does not seem to be much support for breastfeeding in the media. A lot of articles in magazines seem to be stuck on the difficulties and not the pleasures and there always seems to be this thread that at the first sign of trouble you give up.
This is true. Also, mixed feeding i.e. giving both formula and breastfeeding, is becoming the norm over here. Bottlefeeding is everywhere and breastfeeding in public is never really seen anymore.
BUT some supermarkets now have breastfeeding policies. Our local Sainsbury’s has a policy that it is OK to feed in their restaurant. If anyone complains then it is the complainer that is moved, not the nursing mother. Tesco also have a similar policy in their stores. Couple this with the recent advertisment for SMA follow on milk which is on prime time television and you can see the pressure on many young mums to formula feed because that is what everyone else seems to be doing.
Also, the blatant promotion of Follow on Milks – the forumla milk companies have got round not being allowed to advertise formula milk by inventing Follow on Milk which gets round the WHO code. Until I had my first baby and got into breastfeeding, I thought that you HAD to give Follow on milk at 6 months or your baby would suffer from iron depletion! The scaremongering tactics that say "your baby’s iron store has run out by 6 months" don’t mention that the iron in breast milk is much more easily absorbed by the body that the iron in formula. With my daughter I hit difficulties at 6 weeks and no matter how hard I tried to find help health professionals and doctors kept suggesting the bottle. Eventually I gave in. With my son I did a lot of research mainly on the Net and linked up this newsgroup and found out that my previous problem was due to a growth spurt at 5 weeks what a total waste. To think with that small piece of knowledge I could of breastfed my daughter like I am still doing with my son.
I’m sorry that you found so little support with your last baby. For any other mums reading this, the National Childbirth Trust has trained breastfeeding counsellors that you can contact who should be only too pleased to help. Also the La Leche League, The Association of Breastfeeding Mothers and the Breastfeeding Network all offer support and help for any breastfeeding mothers. Ignore what your family is saying and do what you feel is right. From what I have read the US seems to be better at knowing what is best for its children. As for solids start as late as possible both of mine were almost 6 months ,but , again in all the free stuff you get pressure from baby food companies to start at 4 months. To me Britain seems to be concerned only with making as much money out of vunerable first time parents as possible .
Not everyone! Midwives on the whole are much better trained in breastfeeding now. Where the system falls down is that the hospitals and communities are often understaffed and cannot spend the time a new mum needs to establish breastfeeding. Also, whilst some hospitals are brilliant, others are not. It so often seems like pot luck as to whether you get the support you need. This is where the voluntary organisations mentioned above can play such a vital role. Glad everything went better with your son. Thomasina Phillips Daniel 24.10.96 & Emma 15.11.98
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My SIL had a baby almost a year ago in Manchester, and in the beginning, when she was worried that she couldn’t tell how much milk she was producing, and maybe it wasn’t enough, she decided to "top him off" (another cultural difference, in America, to top someone is to kill them!) with a bottle. Then her nurses told her that that is what they do too (approval). Her parents were completely indignant that the nurses did not tell her this in the first place. It was as if they suspected the nurses of trying to trick her into bf-ing. And of course (sarcasm on) ff-ing was superior since that’s what the nurses did themselves. Our nephew is a beautiful healthy boy, and SIL is an excellent mother. — Meg <snip – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I’m sorry that you found so little support with your last baby. For any other mums reading this, the National Childbirth Trust has trained breastfeeding counsellors that you can contact who should be only too pleased to help. Also the La Leche League, The Association of Breastfeeding Mothers and the Breastfeeding Network all offer support and help for any breastfeeding mothers. Ignore what your family is saying and do what you feel is right. From what I have read the US seems to be better at knowing what is best for its children. As for solids start as late as possible both of mine were almost 6 months ,but , again in all the free stuff you get pressure from baby food companies to start at 4 months. To me Britain seems to be concerned only with making as much money out of vunerable first time parents as possible . Not everyone! Midwives on the whole are much better trained in breastfeeding now. Where the system falls down is that the hospitals and communities are often understaffed and cannot spend the time a new mum needs to establish breastfeeding. Also, whilst some hospitals are brilliant, others are not. It so often seems like pot luck as to whether you get the support you need. This is where the voluntary organisations mentioned above can play such a vital role. Glad everything went better with your son. Thomasina Phillips Daniel 24.10.96 & Emma 15.11.98
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I’m an American married to a Man City fan and we live in the US. Yesterday DH got off the phone w/ his sister and asked why don’t we start Abby on solids? She’s not even 3 mo. old! I would like to be able to quote British guidelines on nursing, something similar to the AMA recommending bf for the first year. Some of you will remember my stories from a month ago of my in-laws visit and the pressure from FIL to put Abby on formula "for my convenience." The reason this is coming up is b/c my SIL (who has a 10 mo. old) has a friend who was due the same time as we were, with her second child. The friend gave up bf-ing very early due to mastitis. This friend gained over 5 stone with her pg, which my SIL told me was "all baby." (This friend is not slim to begin with.) Now she has a heavy baby, and has started to give it solids b/c she feels (was told?) that formula is not enough to feed her "big baby." SIL was concerned b/c Abby is also a big baby (9 lbs. 13 oz, 23 inches long at birth, 13 lbs 13 oz and 25 1/2 inches at 2 months). Both DH and I have food allergies and I would really like to delay giving Abby solids until she is 6 mo. old. Is there any British source to back this up? SIL started her baby on solids at 4 months and he has an egg allergy. Plus Abby and I will probably be staying with the in-laws when she is 6 mo. old and we will probably be going through this stop-bf-ing-my-granddaughter thing all over again. DH will be at a conference and so we will be staying there w/out him. Are the leaflets at Boots really good about supporting bf-ing or is it a case of it’s best but if you can’t do it, here’s what you do? What is SMA (from the formula thread)? DH and I discuss the research on this and I thought we had agreed but he gets off the phone with his family and wants to know why don’t we give Abby formula, why don’t we give her solids? and we’ve been through this. I feel like I’m doing something terrific for their granddaughter/niece, and they act as though I’m neglecting her. All I can do, it seems, is keep saying that Abby’s growing beautifully, is healthy, and that her dr is very pleased with her progress. For crying out loud, she’s off the charts for everything. I’d hate to see what pressure I would get if she wasn’t such an Amazon. When they were here for a visit, DH didn’t want me to defend the benefits of bf-ing b/c he was concerned it would imply criticism of his sister’s choice to ff. But they don’t seem to hesitate to criticise our choice! TIA — Meg, who needed to vent
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Current UK Department of Health recommendations are that solids be introduced sometime between 4-6 months. There is evidence that in babies with a family history of allergies i.e. asthma, eczema and food allergies that delaying starting solids until 6 months is best. Certainly if you do have a family history of allergies it is wise to avoid anything with cow’s milk in it. UK recommendations are that you can use cows milk in cooking from 6 months and it can be given as a drink from 12 months. BUT if there is any history of allergy it is wise to avoid it for as long as you can. There is a strong history of allergies in our family and I breastfed my little boy until 17 months when I got pregnant again. I also introduced solids at 5.5 months and didn’t give him anything with cows milk in it until he was 12months, which is a bit more cautious that our UK Department of Health recommendations, but no more cautious than things I have read elsewhere. Babies do not have mature enough digestive systems to cope with solids until at least 4 months and maybe later in some babies. They may be acting hungry, but it doesn’t mean you have to give them solids – milk is fine! It sounds as though you’re doing a brilliant job. If you can stick to your instincts and ignore the advice you don’t want you will thank yourself later. I know I felt similar to you as all my friends started their children on solids much earlier than I did and our families also gave us some hassle over the fact that Daniel slept in our bed and wasn’t "sleeping through the night"! At the end of the day I realised that when we followed our instincts (and the evidence!) everyone was happier. I think people find it challenging when you want to do something different from the way they did it – they see your different actions as a threat. There is no need to do things a certain way just because your mother did it to you and "it never did you any harm". There’s plenty of evidence to show that waiting until AT LEAST 4-6 months and your baby is showing interest in your food is best for baby – as late as possible for babies with allergies. I’ll be thinking of you – I’m just going through the whole thing again with my little girl Emma who is 5 months old! All the best. Thomasina Phillips mother to Daniel 24.10.96 and Emma 15.11.98
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